On jeans and gender

Some other stuff, too, but mostly those.

I once tweeted that choosing my outfit for first dates always feels to me like dressing as a “cool girl” for Halloween. It’s a balancing act, crafting an ensemble that communicates aloofness I don’t actually possess. My natural inclination would be to wear a party dress and a hair scrunchie on every date, and not everybody is into that “goodie two-shoes…