Sitemap - 2021 - Sub Missives
Being alone can be an aphrodisiac for introverts
10 signs someone is probably a daddy dom
We seduced each other with music, but we never even kissed
The best Sondheim songs for different types of Tinder dates
25 gems from my brilliant therapist
How posting daily outfit photos as a teen helped me learn better boundary-setting
My high school teacher yelled his bad takes about feminism at us
How wand vibrators help me when I'm depressed
Sometimes I hate reviewing sex toys
The illuminating question that is "Are you mad at me?"
My first "lesbian" experience – sort of
What if "Mean Girls" is a queer movie?
Staying friends when romance doesn't quite work out
How kink got me through a dreaded dentist appointment
8 ways I confront internalized anti-fatness and learn to love my body
They spanked me with my own book
The dangerous allure of sex with your ex
"Sexy Beasts" is a demisexual fever-dream
Masculinity, cuckolding, & Tom Cruise
Why I don't write about super personal stuff in public anymore
Having a ball: What I've learned about touching testes
The kinkiest movie I've ever seen
Cult leaders & the ethics of hypnosis
There are many ways to be smart
Demisexuality & parasocial relationships
Cuckolding porn made me think about empowerment in relationships
Simultaneous orgasms are overrated
Writing assignments are kinky but also romantic
When monogamy becomes a fetish
I'm not a leather belt fetishist, but...
How I (literally) wrote the book on kink
"My partner asked me to spank them. Now what?"
Finding "the one," in more ways than one
3 thoughts about sex, exes, and aliens
I want to dress like it's Valentine's Day every day
Porn & permission during the pandemic